The “B” word… (busy)

Last year I realised (and was told several times) that I was always busy. Every time someone asked how I was going I was quick to respond with busy – but I realised that busy, for me, was synonymous with stressed. I found that was I was doing a lot stuff that was really not productive. Instead, it was box ticking in order to prove that I was valuable and “doing my part” or whatever that is supposed to mean. Basically, I was getting stuff done but it wasn’t the important stuff. The stuff that I wanted to get done versus the stuff I needed to do.

So, earlier this year I had a conversation with some of my amazing colleagues about how I want to reframe my thinking by moving away from the “B” word. Because I was busy being stressed rather than being productive. My aim was that I wanted to do more things that would bring me personal happiness. But not just happiness – maybe a sense of positive accomplishment.

To be honest, I was worried that I would fall back into the “busy” habits that I had formed over the last few years as a teacher. However, I have noticed that I have made some really good changes.

One: I am exercising more consciously. I’m still going to dance class and I am starting to see real improvements. (Though I still need to work on my confidence…I tend to rely on being goofy and need to look at myself more confidently!) Thanks Jacqui for forcing me to smile properly. And I am still going to the gym once or twice a week. The aim is to get to three times a week.

Two: My reading is still going strong. I’ve finished ten books and I’ve still not bought any new ones, yet…Plus, it’s actually good for me to just sit down for a couple of hours on the weekend and just read.

Three: I am trying to say no to the things that I don’t really want to do or delegate the things that I not totally beneficial to me. In a way I have been trying to place boundaries around my time while I’m at work.

Four: Last year I made a rule that my Saturdays were for me. No school work, no school talk if I could avoid it. It was my day to relax and restore.

There are other things that I am actively working on but am not ready to share just yet. I am, after all, actually quite shy around people that I don’t know.

One of the most important things that I have started is trying my best to remove the word “busy” from my vocabulary as much as possible. Sometimes I replace it with productive and sometimes I answer honestly and just say that I am doing bitty work that is not as important as other stuff. As always, I am a work in progress – like everyone I know. Who would have thought that humans are strange and complex beings in a constant state of change.

So, what tips do you have for more balance? Keeping in mind that I tend to be an active relaxer. What do you recommend?

That being said – I hope that you are doing well and staying healthy. Look after yourselves and look out for those who may need our help.

xx Jaime

One Comment Add yours

  1. Jo Long says:

    Nice self-care, e hoa. Keep it up! I’m trying to do the same, and succeeding occasionally. Arohanui ❤


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